Friday, March 16, 2007

Life as a Mom, Wife and Career driven woman

Looking back at my life I feel I have done pretty well for myself considering I have not attend a College even though I would love to. But have not found the time to do so. And have been raising children form the age of 18. I have been married going on 18 years and have loved this wonderful man as much today as the first day we met. We met through a now mutual friend and became High School sweethearts. Once we started dating life became something worth living to the fullist. We married 6 short months later and have never regrated a single moment.

Life quickly became filled with lots of responsiblilty and children soon followed. In order to become able to care for our new Family we concentrated on what career paths we were currently in. Even if we like those jobs or not. When I first began my life in Retail I told the ladies I worked with I will not do this forever. They all laughed and said they said the same thing. I quickly responded I would be different. Well some 20 years later I am still in Retail and have worked my way from pushing carts at the local grocery store to a successful Store Manager at one of the fastest growing Pharmacy in the nation. Do I love my job anymore today, well somedays. I love certain parts of my job and others I dread daily. But what is most important is with out my career in this field and my success for working hard. My Family is well cared for. You ask why not change what I do, well I would love to. And hopefully in the next few years I will be able to remove myself from the store level and advance my way to a higher position or maybe in a career in a different field all together.

By time I was 23 years old I had 2 children. Both we loved equally. I felt my life was complete so we took measures to ensure no future children would be entering our lives. A year later we found out we were pregnant. We were scared and excited all at the same time. We thought maybe after 2 boy's we would get a little girl. When nature took it's course and as quickly as we found out, the pregnancy was over. Life just was not the same after that. For years I dwelled on the miscarriage. If you have ever had one you know how hard it is to come to terms with it. So around 7 years later I told my Husband I wish to have another child (Hopefully a Girl ) so we began the most stressfull time of our lives. Fertility treatment. Man you talk about a roller coaster ride. With all the meds they have you on and all the mood swings you are not sure after a while who you might be when you get up in the morning. So the treatments begin and the first of 2 rounds of IVF. With all our hopes as high as you can get, They are shattered. The first round ends with another miscarriage. So after a few months we considered another round. We asked if we would be able to have my tubes repaired. We were told our only option was IVF. So we prepared for another round. And nothing. So I began researching other options. A few months later we were on a plane to Georgia to repair my tubes.

After treatment it still took us many more tests, meds and a few more years of trying. So 2 years later and an IUI treatment we found out we were expecting our 3rd child. Hoping as last it was the little girl we were trying for, we found out it was another boy. My Husband and I were really not surprised. We had already prepared ourselfs and were just delighted that we were finally having another child. In October 2006 we welcomed into our life a healthy baby boy. He is just a blessing. I have to say I have been blessed so far with 3 very healthy, adorable and content babies.

Just 3 short months later we found out we were expecting with no help from the Doctor's our 4th child. Never in our lives did we think we would have 2 children just 11 months apart. Our other 2 boy's are 4 years apart. Hoping that because they will be much closer in age that they will have more incommon. So now the wait to find out what we will gifted with this time. After already having 3 boy's I believe in my heart that we will be expecting another boy. I joke with people that we are working on our own Pit Crew. Not knowing what life will bring us in the future we are unsure that this will be our last. If at some point we are gifted once more then life will just be filled the best gift in life you can ever receive, a child.

To some up things, I believe that all things in life have purpose and that you should never dwell on the past and spend as much time with your loved ones as you can because you never know what tomorrow will bring.

2 comments:

deb said...

who's to say it's not a pit crew unless it's all boy's. Good luck I'll be waiting to hear.

Unknown said...

a very sweet summary of your life as a wife and mother...I will pray that you will be able to find and make more time with your growing family